How do I know if I have trauma?

A traumatic event (or series of events) is anything that has impacted your sense of safety, security, or self. You might have experienced something that, at the time, didn’t feel particularly harmful or damaging, but is now causing you to struggle in your life or relationships. Or perhaps you experienced something very significant—abuse, violence, or assault—whose impacts are showing up in almost every area of life. All of these things are trauma, and each of them deserves a space where you can process their impacts and move forward from them.

Do I have to tell you everything about my past?

No. You are in full control of how much you choose to share and when you choose to share it. You will never be pushed to a place you don’t feel ready in therapy; this is about meeting you where you are with strategies and support that can help you start to create change in your life.

What is trauma therapy like?

Trauma therapy with me is a supportive, personalized process that moves at your pace. I focus on creating a space where you feel safe, understood, and in control while we gently explore how your past is showing up in your present. Some sessions may involve talking things through, while others focus more on building tools or using approaches like EMDR—always based on what feels right for you.

Is online trauma therapy effective?

Yes, online trauma therapy can be very effective. I’ve found that many people actually feel more comfortable opening up from their own space, which can make the work feel more natural and consistent. I use the same approaches I would in person, adapted in a way that still feels supportive and effective.

EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) is a proven psychotherapy method that allows you to reprocess life experiences, fears, and anxieties while, at the same time, addressing the underlying core beliefs that we hold about ourselves. It uses a three-pronged approach: Processing the past events that have laid the groundwork for the challenges you’re experiencing, addressing the current circumstances and triggers that hold you back, and preparing for future events to develop healthy coping skills and strategies

How long does trauma therapy take?

This really depends on you. Some people start to feel relief fairly quickly, while others choose to stay in therapy longer to work through deeper patterns. I don’t believe in rushing the process. My goal is to move at a pace that feels comfortable and meaningful for you, and we’ll check in along the way to make sure it continues to feel that way.

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Therapy can be a place to start figuring out what you need, what you want, and what life looks like when your decisions belong to you again.

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You might recognize yourself in one of these places.

You don't have to be at a particular point in your story to seek therapy.

Still in the relationship

Dealing with a partner who needs control

Maybe you're still trying to make sense of what's happening in your relationship.

You may find yourself questioning your own judgment, walking on eggshells, or constantly trying to anticipate your partner's reactions.

You don't have to make a decision about your relationship before you come to therapy.

Therapy can give you a private space to understand what's happening, reconnect with your own perspective, and begin thinking about what you need.

Recently out

Leaving a relationship doesn't necessarily mean you immediately feel free from it.

You may be out of the relationship, but still carrying the fear, self-doubt, or confusion that came with it.

We can work on rebuilding your confidence, your boundaries, and your trust in your own decisions—while making space for everything you're processing now.

Years later, but it still follows you

Sometimes years can pass and the relationship is still affecting how you move through the world.

You may find yourself struggling to trust people, questioning yourself in relationships, or reacting strongly to situations that remind you of what you experienced.

Being safe now and feeling safe are not always the same thing.

Therapy can help you understand what you're carrying and work toward feeling more grounded, confident, and present in your life today.

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My approach is personal to you.

I don't believe in giving every person the same treatment plan.

I create an individualized treatment approach based on your experiences, your needs, and what you want to change and work on.

I'm a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional, and I have particular experience working with people who have experienced narcissistic abuse, coercive control and other forms of controlling or emotionally abusive relationships.

We start where you are—not where you think you should be, all from the comfort of your home.

What sessions can look like

Each session is done online through HIPPAA-complaint software. Your information is safe. And you get to work through your past in an environment that feels safe.

We'll talk about what you're experiencing, what you want help with, and what feels manageable for you.

Depending on your needs, I may use EMDR, talk therapy, cognitive therapy and other evidence-based trauma approaches.

Some sessions may focus on processing what happened. Others may focus on boundaries, self-trust, relationships, emotional responses, or simply understanding yourself better.

There is no requirement to have everything figured out before you begin.

What can therapy help you rebuild?

Your sense of yourself.

Your ability to trust your own judgment.

Your confidence in setting boundaries.

Your ability to recognize what feels healthy and safe.

Your sense of choice in your own life.

The goal isn't to become who you were before the relationship. It's to feel more like yourself again.

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No. You don't have to make a decision about your relationship before beginning therapy. We can start with where you are and what you need right now.
You don't have to arrive with a perfect understanding of your experience. We can talk through what you've experienced and how it's affecting you without judgment.
Yes. You don't have to seek therapy immediately after leaving. If the experience continues to affect your relationships, confidence, sense of safety, or everyday life, it can still be meaningful to work through it.
No. My role is not to make decisions for you. I'll help you understand what you're experiencing and support you in making choices that are right for you.

Frequently Asked Questions about Trauma Therapy

You can start wherever you are.

You don't have to have the whole story figured out before you reach out.
A free consultation is simply an opportunity to talk, ask questions, and see whether working together feels like the right fit.

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